"Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible" –Tony Robbins 1. Share these responses as a comment on the blog -Check-in: What words would you use to describe the current state of your: 2. Share these responses as a comment on the blog –Goal-Setting
3. Share your responses to Part 1, Part 2, or both on social media (#30daysofgrowth) with a link to the blog (http://chrysalisfacilitation.weebly.com/insights) for others to join in on the challenge sample: "I'm participating in a #30daysofgrowth challenge and wanted to share one of my reflections: An area I want to work on is connection (through self-expression). I've come to understand recently how much I prevent myself from connecting with others by not trusting them to accept me for my full self (imperfections and all) --most of this shows up in being afraid to say "no" or to ask for what I want. My first step has been understanding that fear and not compassion guides my actions. Optimally, I will allow abundance and faith in my worth to guide my mindset and feel completely expressed in every interaction I have. If you're interested in finding out more or joining the challenge, visit (https://www.facebook.com/events/379986229030122/) or contact me for details." 4. Ask the above questions (from Part 1 and/or Part 2) to at least one other person in your life today. 5. Check-in with your accountability buddy *Adapted from the Authentic Reflections program
43 Comments
Mandy
2/2/2017 06:42:35 am
check in:
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Chris
2/2/2017 08:22:00 am
Wayto step up Mandy you have set the bar
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Mandy
2/2/2017 10:20:13 am
haha, thanks Chris! I have the tendency to write more than is usually necessary or expected for any kind of writing reflection... I've also been working on being a morning human, so I will be doing these hella early. it is by no means to intimidate anyone, it's just in my nature :)
Jaimie
2/2/2017 12:20:49 pm
I'm inspired by your commitment to writing and honest self expression and hope you keep it up! And I'm also someone who writes way more than is expected in reflections - which is great when it helps me delve deeper than expected into an issue, but I know I've also alienated and overwhelmed people with this tendency. A gift and a curse :)
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Neil van Danger
2/2/2017 09:51:42 pm
I really like what you said around relationships and loving self. That helps me in my direction towards my goals :)
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Bimala
2/2/2017 11:03:40 pm
Mandy, thank you for being openly vulnerable and raw. So much of what you've written speaks to me and where I'm at right now! The wisdom of youth - you've reminded me about the importance of self-compassion and acceptance. Empathy for myself has been a challenge and how can I possibly share something I don't have? We have to put the oxygen masks on ourselves first - thank you for the reminder!
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Sommer
2/3/2017 01:47:55 am
I love how you frame that high sensitivity and emotional tendency can be seen as something magical rather than 'unattractive' or high maintenance... Reading this helps me because it is something I have struggled with for many many years. Good to know I am not alone in the perspective shifting around it :)
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Tara
2/2/2017 09:07:43 am
Checkin
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Tara
2/2/2017 09:19:39 am
Current Status:
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Sommer
2/3/2017 01:54:28 am
I know what it feels like to think people might be annoyed/upset with you when they are not actually thinking about you... That's a hard feeling... What has helped me through moments like that is to realize that I actually prefer cultivating friendships with people who are willing to say when they are upset or annoyed, instead of expecting me to read them... I also sometimes do 'perception checking' and say 'hey friend, when you did X I perceived it as Y. Is that the message you were trying to send or did I misinterpret?' Good luck, and it feels nice to know I'm not the only one who experiences that :)
Jaimie
2/2/2017 10:43:43 am
1.
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Kristian
2/2/2017 10:57:34 am
Head: my thoughts have been pretty direct, and determined recently. Not as much room for random thoughts, while retaining imagination. Probably a good thing as I move into midterm season :)
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Katherine
2/2/2017 12:20:35 pm
HEAD – My head is nice and clear right now. I’m able to think things through clearly and ponder. I don’t currently have any unwelcome/anxious thoughts trying to fight their way in, which is something I often struggle with.
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Jaimie
2/2/2017 12:41:08 pm
Hi Katherine. I identified with so much of what you shared. I feel you on the heavy heart, with what we're seeing go on in the world right now. I'm also trying hard to hope and figure out what I can do or what groups I can join to help make things better where I am. But finding energy to do this is a struggle for me.
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Katherine
2/3/2017 01:11:36 am
Hi Jaimie, thanks for your response! It's nice to know that you aren't alone in what you are feeling. :)
Christina
2/2/2017 12:31:10 pm
Head: Today my thoughts are feeling a little distracted, there isn't a direct route that they're going in but they're more wandering wherever they please.
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Morgaine
2/2/2017 06:24:19 pm
Head:
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Sommer
2/3/2017 02:05:16 am
I've definitely felt the pressure of identifying with the intellect, but fearing to let it out in intimate relationships... that can be a difficult one. Good luck and I am curious to know what you discover about that aspect, specifically. Thanks for sharing!
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Bimala
2/2/2017 06:38:19 pm
Current State:
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Vrindy
2/2/2017 06:57:10 pm
Great optimal goal!
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Talia
2/2/2017 06:54:15 pm
Head: fuzzy, tired from a day of cross-oceanic travel
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Bimala
2/2/2017 11:14:21 pm
I love your question, "how else can I share with others if I am deaf?" The theme of several of our posts is about having a better understanding and appreciation of our selves first so we can give more fully to others - what a wonderful gift to share! Thank you for sharing your blessing of positive energy and may it be reflected right back on you!
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Vrindy Spencer
2/2/2017 06:55:34 pm
1. Y'ALL ARE SO INSPIRATIONAL
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Bimala
2/2/2017 11:20:21 pm
Miss Vrindy I joined this challenge because I wanted to better understand what you were working on and I figured I'd feel inspired. I did it reluctantly wondering how I'd possibly fit more into my life right now! I'm thrilled to report that the structure and support of having accountability buddies, the questions and posts have given me energy rather than taking it away! Thank you!
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Katherine
2/3/2017 01:17:55 am
"I also do fairly easily express my positive emotions to others... I often have a hard time expressing my disappointments or angers with the individuals they relate to..."
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Sommer
2/3/2017 02:14:41 am
Vrindy, your mentioning the holding back of positive emotions for someone for fear of overwhelming them resonates strongly with a lot of chapters in my life! It can be difficult and sometimes confusing to feel 'too much,' and I admit I've hidden a lot of my love for a lot of years because I wanted to be 'cool.' I'm only now starting to realize that hiding it doesn't really help anyone, haha! This quote-- though a little bit sad-- has helped me: "Loving someone who cannot love you the same way in return is not weakness. It’s one of the most courageous things you’ll ever do. You are putting your armour at their feet and you are saying, 'I will not fight you in this. I have loved you and that means that I have already won.'" – Azra T.
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Head – busy noisy
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Tamara
2/2/2017 07:49:34 pm
head: a bit panicky because I've been sick all week and am very behind in everything
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chris
2/2/2017 08:19:28 pm
Head -FULL - all day long I listen to people who are looking for help with their mental health and try to understand their story and the context that brought them to where they are in order to assess and make recommendations that I hope will be meaningful and helpful. Then I am trying to stay on top of stock investments, and property management, and manage the menu and nutrition of my family. Plus I am receiving daily articles on mental health, addictions, and trauma and how neurofeedback may be applied that I have not yet had time to read. And when I go to bed I read about the brain and it's circuitry. Lots in the head.
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Bimala
2/2/2017 11:24:05 pm
Thank you for the reminder to slow it down!
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Sommer
2/3/2017 02:24:30 am
Hey, Chris. Thanks for sharing! In regards to your desired success-- developing a remedy for peoples' trauma-- there's this process called Somatic Therapy that has been helpful for met! I've seen it work for people who have trouble creating coherent stories about traumatic pasts. It might be helpful in your research! Good luck!
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Lana
2/2/2017 09:22:31 pm
DAY 2
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Rosa
2/2/2017 09:24:01 pm
Check-In:
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2/2/2017 10:30:40 pm
Rosa - I am so sorry about your families lose. When my mother was diagnosed with cancer and when she passed was also a kairos moment for me. The awareness around emotions, feelings, what has been passed down through generations was under a microscope. We too (my family) have a tendency to lean toward judgement and anger. The loss forced us to have a better understanding - it was a push. This challenge was a pull for me. I want a better understanding without the tragedy.
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Bimala
2/2/2017 11:31:47 pm
Rosa, I appreciate your idea of setting aside time each day for reflection. You've reminded me of the importance of getting back to meditation even 10 minutes a day. Thank you!
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Neil van Danger
2/2/2017 09:37:34 pm
Check In:
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2/2/2017 09:47:20 pm
Head: Begging for clarity of thoughts for clarity of communication. Needs a time out from thinking. Needs more rest so my body doesn't brush it's teeth with hand lotion again tomorrow.
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Ann Marie McKenzie
2/2/2017 09:51:19 pm
Others could support by doing their own personal development work with EQ. Feelings are the language of the Universe. Imagine a world where we were all tapped in to the Uni, how connected we would be to each other?
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Bimala
2/2/2017 11:42:39 pm
Ann Marie what a wonderful analogy that engaging in this process is good for the soul as going to the gym is good for one's physical well-being. So many of the posts have provided wonderful reminders for me on Day 2 and your's reminded me of the importance of balancing our physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional. Thank you!
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Esther Wenger
2/2/2017 10:28:38 pm
Day 2:
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Sommer
2/3/2017 01:42:37 am
I would describe the current state of my head as light. My thoughts today have been light and the day seemed to flow easily. I would describe the current state of my feelings as excited and relaxed. I seem to have lightened up in the past few days, and am not putting as much pressure on myself or the world around me to turn out a certain way... it feels like a kinder way to be and I am happy for it. I would describe my feet—physical state—also as relaxed today. Yesterday I was experiencing a tremendous amount of stress through back pains, but today my body feels relaxed and I don’t feel as much of an urge to accomplished. I am feeling content just being.
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Anita
2/3/2017 08:18:55 am
Amazing work you're doing here, Vrindy! So happy to see this take off. I've been participating from "afar"—I have been answering your questions on my personal blog just for myself for now, but I just thought I'd mention that so you know that your work is touching others that you might not even be aware of! :)
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Leif
2/3/2017 10:36:17 am
Writing for yesterday can feel like failure sometimes, except when yesterday was so full of change that I didnt know how to respond to questions while in the middle of a flux. It was full and fabulous.
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